Following up on the Mothers day post, there is due recognition for another group of people that pay a dear price along with mothers, military spouses and family members. My first deployment back in 1997 was an eye opener for me. Nervous, doing a million things at once, not getting any of them done, one addition made the fire burn hotter. My better half was expecting and expecting about the day I was scheduled to depart. Luck would have it I was able to see the birth only to deploy a couple days after. Man did I ever hear it about that. Spouses and family members take it for the team time and time again while their military half is off in glorious spas and living large in far off places¦yea right. From enrolling the kids to school to registering the house with the post office, scheduling departure inspections with the housing dept and battling the unfamiliarity’s that come with a new move, they continuously step up, and accomplish the mission. During deployments, spouses battle the broken sink, car, windows and all the other natural phenomenon that happen as soon as the warriors leaves for deployment. They become dependent and self sufficient where they fend for themselves. They are home front warriors and behind every good warrior are a great spouse and family. Not knowing what their spouse is doing or going through is almost better for their good. Hearing stories or rumors and watching the news always makes them uncomfortable because apart of them is what the news is about. Like the deployed warriors, they too develop their own routines and try not to think of the loved ones. They know their loved ones are out there but develop a livelihood that operates without thinking about them. Its always tougher thinking about them when they are so far away and when you do think about them, its€™s a special time, your time. As the same is for the deployed warriors, conducting a daily chaos in an uncertain environment their day could only be distracted if they continuously sat around and thought about home. There is a time and place for it. Best suggestion is for service members to try to be creative and remind their spouses they care about them while being deployed. Handwritten letters are the best in this electronic world where its so easy to send an email off. But to get a card in the mail is a powerful way to say calm thinking about you. Best recommendation for the warriors at home, is to stay busy. Kids usually take care of that but those without little warriors should get involved with a community group, job or active event. Unfortunately, some dependants say good by to their loved ones the day they deploy and never get to say anything else again to them. There is always that thought he might not come back from this€� out there when you leave. The percentage is so low; you never expect it would be you or your loved ones. These are the toughest ones. Seeing the small kids asking you the question, Do you know where my daddy is?â€� Obviously speechless you hack your way through an explanation to an innocent Childs face. It aint easy being green, green in the states or abroad. Dress Blue Marines arriving at a door step is one of the first steps in notifying the family members of a Marine killed in action. A domino affect is about to transpire where a hundred people’s life is about to change. The immediate spouse or family memeber being dealt the toughest blow and most immediate. Nothing said can really help, nothing but time. These are the true warriors with their life falling apart and with it never going to be the same again. Hate, sorrow and pain settling to pride and the ever-present loss…….over time. Yes, these are the true warriors of our service members. The deployed know what they volunteered for; they know what they are getting into as they have been trained for it. The family members, they deal with the repercussions of their loss. Not knowing the details but not sure they want to know all of them at least right away. For all family members of current, past and the fallen that have served our great country, know you also are never forgotten and that without your support, your servicemember would make it, but it would be a bumpy road. The American Airlines 757 couldn’t have landedmuchfartherfromthe war. The plane arrived in Reno on a Friday evening, the beginning of the 2005 Hot August nights festival  one of the city’s biggest filled with flashing lights, fireworks,carefreemusicand plentyof gambling. When a young Marine in dress uniform had boarded the plane to Reno, the passengers smiled and nodded politely. None knew he had just come from the planes cargo hold, after watching his best friends casket loaded on board. At 24 years old, Sgt. Gavin Conley was only seven days younger than the man in the coffin.The two had met as 17-year-olds on another plane the one to boot camp in California. They had slept in adjoining top bunks, the two youngest recruits in the barracks. All Marines call each other brother. Conley and Jim Cathey could have been. They finished each others sentences, had matching infantry tattoos etched on their shoulders, and cracked on each other as if they had grown up together which, in some ways, they had. When the airline crew found out about Conley’s mission, they bumped him to first-class. He had never flown there before. Neither had Jim Cathey. On the flight, the woman sitting next to him nodded toward his uniform and asked if he was coming or going. To the war, she meant. He fell back on the words the military had told him to say: I’m escorting a fallen Marine home to his family from the situation in Iraq. The woman quietly said she was sorry ,Conley said. Then she began to cry. When the plane landed in Nevada, the pilot asked the passengers to remain seated while Conley disembarked alone. Then the pilot told them why. The passengers pressed their faces against the windows. Outside, a procession walked toward the plane. Passengers in window seats leaned back to give others a better view. One held a child up to watch. From their seats in the plane, they saw a hearse and a Marine extending a white-gloved hand into a limousine ,helping a pregnant woman out of the car

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